Heard from my MP
Dec. 8th, 2014 11:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lollypoxUsually when he calls, I don't tell him where I am unless it is relevant. If he hears restaurant noise, he might ask where I am. If he hears people talking he might ask if I'm at a meeting or a party or something.
And often times if I'm at the house of my Lovelies, he works it out quickly because one or more of the household comes up to talk to me while I'm on the phone. I try to step outside or in the bathroom sometimes.
However, when it comes out that I'm there, he usually does a very knowing "Uh-huh."
I wish he'd just ask me, frankly. Our don't tell policy is in place for really good reasons, but part of being poly for me is talking about things. No, he doesn't want his nose rubbed in my adventures while he's in there. Yes, he trusts me to do what I will.
And yes, he knows that I have a history with these people. My being over there all the time has him with his eyebrows up.
So the last time he called while I was at their house, they offered me a quiet room in which to have my conversation. It was really nice.
Then he called again the next day and I was at a different friend's house. In that instance, I had him talk to her because she misses him, too.
I also warned him that I might velcro myself to his face, and that when he needs solitude he should tell me. I let him know that I am fully prepared to give him space and privacy (which he has been doing without for four years) whenever he needs it.
Of course, that means I might go to the house of my lovely friends, and I hope that does not cause drama.
But we'll have to play it by ear.
I love my husband, and I am eager to get him back. I'm eager to get him home and let him do what he wants to do. I'm eager to have him here as the other side of my archway.
Fortunately I have flying buttresses of support as well.
I'm also eager to pimp him out, but that's another post for another day.
And often times if I'm at the house of my Lovelies, he works it out quickly because one or more of the household comes up to talk to me while I'm on the phone. I try to step outside or in the bathroom sometimes.
However, when it comes out that I'm there, he usually does a very knowing "Uh-huh."
I wish he'd just ask me, frankly. Our don't tell policy is in place for really good reasons, but part of being poly for me is talking about things. No, he doesn't want his nose rubbed in my adventures while he's in there. Yes, he trusts me to do what I will.
And yes, he knows that I have a history with these people. My being over there all the time has him with his eyebrows up.
So the last time he called while I was at their house, they offered me a quiet room in which to have my conversation. It was really nice.
Then he called again the next day and I was at a different friend's house. In that instance, I had him talk to her because she misses him, too.
I also warned him that I might velcro myself to his face, and that when he needs solitude he should tell me. I let him know that I am fully prepared to give him space and privacy (which he has been doing without for four years) whenever he needs it.
Of course, that means I might go to the house of my lovely friends, and I hope that does not cause drama.
But we'll have to play it by ear.
I love my husband, and I am eager to get him back. I'm eager to get him home and let him do what he wants to do. I'm eager to have him here as the other side of my archway.
Fortunately I have flying buttresses of support as well.
I'm also eager to pimp him out, but that's another post for another day.
